No one welcomes embarrassing moments. Like when you notice a neighbour waving at you through the window and wave back with cheery enthusiasm — only to then notice they’re actually washing their windows.
Most of us are practically hard-wired to try and avoid awkward encounters. This is presumably why so many men shy away from seeing the doctor if they’re struggling with premature ejaculation.
But there’s no reason to suffer in silence.
According to the Mayo Clinic, 1 in 3 men are likely to experience this problem at some stage [1]. Doctors are used to dealing with this issue and have tried and tested ways to improve the situation.
Here’s a rough guide to what happens when you talk to a doctor about PE.
Defining the issue
PE is loosely defined as a condition where you find yourself constantly ejaculating within one minute of penetration.
There are two main forms of this complaint.
“Primary” premature ejaculation is when a man has always struggled with this problem since the beginning of their sex life.
“Acquired” premature ejaculation, on the other hand, can suddenly emerge after a period of normal sexual activity. This type is often rooted in a psychological cause that might be anything from stress to performance anxiety.
In addition, premature ejaculation can also be an off-shoot of erectile dysfunction or some broader health issue. Lifestyle factors can also play a contributing role with the problem sometimes becoming intensified by alcohol or drug use.
This variety of possible causes means that any form of treatment should always start with a chat with your GP in order to identify the most effective course of action for you.
“Most of the questions that we ask are trying to establish a number of things related to premature ejaculation, as well as general health questions,” explains Sydney GP, Dr Matthew Vickers.
“So with regards to your health, we want to make sure that there are no other issues that might be impacting on sexual dysfunction, as that can sometimes be the first sign of issues like heart disease or diabetes.”
The main aim of this discussion is to figure out whether your form of PE is primary or acquired. This categorisation is vital in order to determine the best course of treatment.
Clinical treatments
Men who suffer from primary PE that is not linked to erectile dysfunction will benefit from treatment that’s specifically designed to help them delay ejaculation.
There are daily and on-demand options to treat PE — with Pilot's clinical PE treatment, your Pilot practitioner will decide which treatment is most appropriate for you and create a plan including clinically proven treatment.
Behavioural tactics
It's common for healthcare practitioners to recommend a multi-pronged approach to treating PE, which includes behavioural techniques to maximise the chances of a successful outcome.
The first one is practising the stop-start technique, which is commonly referred to as “edging”.
During sex or masturbation, as soon as you feel the initial sensation of ejaculation looming, the idea here is that you stop whatever form of stimulation you’re doing until the feeling subsides. Once the urgency has faded, you can then repeat the process.
“Continually doing that over a period of time will eventually lead to better control over the ejaculation reflex,” Dr Vickers says.
Another option is the squeeze technique. “When you start to get the sensation of ejaculation you squeeze the area between the glans or the head of the penis shaft until the ejaculation reflex goes away.”
Treating acquired PE
Alternatively, if you’re suffering from an acquired form of PE – a condition that’s developed later in your sex life – you’ll probably be advised to take a different course of action. “Acquired PE is most commonly due to erectile dysfunction,” Dr Vickers explains.
When you’re struggling with ED, your brain can overcompensate by forcing the body to ejaculate while there’s the slightest window of opportunity. Treating your ED as the root cause therefore can often take care of premature ejaculation.
“In younger men, typically, erectile dysfunction is not due to any physical abnormality, it’s more often due to confidence and performance anxiety,” Dr Vickers says.
Practitioners may recommend a treatment plan that focuses on ED, as a short-term measure in order to tackle this mental issue, he adds. “After the man’s confidence increases, the ED issue often resolves itself quite quickly.
"And then, over time, the PE will get better shortly afterwards, improving the time to ejaculation".
Other causes of ED
Before landing on a treatment plan, your practitioner will want to rule out other potential causes of ED. Many of these are lifestyle-related and include weight gain, smoking, excessive drinking, lack of exercise, low testosterone or a range of other symptoms.
ED can also have a psychological basis, too. Relationship problems or communication difficulties can sometimes precipitate difficulties, Dr Vickers admits. “We commonly see erectile dysfunction in people who have recently ended a long-term relationship and started having sex with a new partner.”
The upshot is that there are a host of reasons why you might be suffering from premature ejaculation. The sheer diversity of these causes means that this is a tricky area for self-diagnosis.
That’s why if you want to resolve the issue as quickly as possible, your best bet is to speak to a healthcare practitioner who can help you identify the specifics of your problem and recommend the most relevant treatment.
Don’t let PE sabotage your sex life. Pilot's practitioners can help you navigate both PE and ED, all from the comfort of your own home.
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