12 Best sex positions for a small penis: How to make every move count

Are you feeling as if you’re not getting what you want out of those intimate moments?

It’s natural to feel that way, and you’re not the only bloke. According to the latest research, 11% of men felt anxious during sex for one reason or another [1]. Whether it’s anxiety caused by a condition like erectile dysfunction or worries over your size and movements, there’s always something there to derail the moment.

In this guide, we’re focusing on men who think they aren’t quite measuring up in the size department. Here’s a breakdown of the top sex positions for you to try if you’re not blessed with those extra centimetres.

What is the average penis size?

Does size matter? Some might argue it doesn’t because it’s how you use it, but let’s get real, it does matter to a lot of blokes, and that’s okay.

In Australia, the average penis size is 14.46 cm when erect. What does this mean? We’re about average around the world. Ecuador boasts the largest penis size at 17.61 cm, whereas Cambodian men have the smallest at 10.04 cm [2]. On a side note, the average global erect penis length has actually increased from 12.1 cm to 15.2 cm for reasons that still baffle researchers [3].

So, what you might think of as “small” here might actually be huge elsewhere. In contrast, what’s considered “above-average” might actually be below the standard in another part of the world.

Generally, being slightly smaller than the average length doesn’t mean you have a micropenis or that you can’t have satisfying sex. A micropenis is an extremely rare condition, with just one in 300 born with it globally [4].

Do women really care about size?

Some say that it’s about proficiency rather than pure size, and that’s true. A man with an exceptionally large arsenal who can’t use it isn’t much better than someone with a penis of half the size who can.

With that in mind, you might hope that this means most sheilas don’t actually care. A researcher from Monash University attempted to find out and discovered that a larger penis size is generally more attractive, alongside height [5].

Could you just be a grower, not a shower?

You might have heard this term before. And this is precisely why penis measurements tend to be taken when the penis is fully erect. It’s designed to avoid the trouble of dealing with growers and showers that always come when taking an average size with a flaccid penis.

But what does it actually mean?

• Grower – A man whose penis becomes significantly longer when he gets an erection.
• Shower – A man whose penis doesn’t significantly lengthen when erect.

It’s a subjective term, but the International Society of Sex Medicine draws the line as a grower penis being at least four centimetres longer when erect [6].

Does a larger penis mean better sex? 

A larger penis doesn’t give you an advantage beyond feeling a bit more confident. Female sexual pleasure hinges on a plethora of other factors, including length of intercourse and erectile function.

The truth is that it largely depends on what a woman prefers. It’s no surprise that a survey of women who preferred deep vaginal stimulation preferred longer penises [7]. But vaginal orgasms aren’t that common, either way, with studies finding that most women will orgasm clitorally, which reduces the need to have a longer penis to properly stimulate your partner [8]. Instead of opting for just penetration and going in search of the G-spot, focus more on what's closer to home.

In short, a larger penis doesn’t automatically equate to being better at sex, even if you do feel more confident going into the bedroom.

Best sex positions for a small penis

Having a small penis doesn’t have to mean forcibly abstaining from sex for the rest of your life, nor does it have to mean a parade of inadequate encounters. It’s all about finding the positions that overcome those shortcomings.

Let’s break down the best sex positions for small penis males that will result in deeper penetration, more control, greater intimacy, and even more clitoral stimulation.

Positions for deeper penetration

Deeper penetration to provide more vaginal stimulation can still happen even if you don’t have the raw centimetres to make it happen. With these sex positions for guys, you can make the most of your natural length while still achieving the results you want, thus helping you to deal with any penis anxiety you might have:

• Legs Raised Missionary – Everyone knows the good old missionary position. Deepen the position by bringing their knees towards their chest or placing their legs on your shoulders to tilt the pelvis and shorten the vaginal canal to increase your penetration depth.
• Modified Legs Together Missionary – Another variation is asking your partner to keep their thighs a bit closer while you go between them. This narrows the vaginal canal and increases friction across the whole length of your penis.
• Edge of the Bed – Ask your partner to lie back on the edge of the bed, with their hips on or just over the edge. In the meantime, you’ll stand or kneel to get that straight angle that provides a great entry way for penetration.
• Rear Entry With a Pillow – Get into the doggy-style position and place a pillow under your partner’s hips to lift and tilt their pelvis. This change in angle enables you to go deeper, even with a smaller penis.

Positions for clitoral stimulation

Clitoral stimulation is what drives orgasms. Approximately 75% of women in one study said they needed it either alone or combined with other stimulation to achieve orgasm, so you can’t afford to neglect it [9].

Here’s a list of different sex positions that keep your bodies close to allow easy access to the clitoris:

• Cowgirl – Cowgirl position is a classic that works for men of all sizes. It also gives control over angle and depth to your partner, as they sit on top of you and control the flow. Reverse cowgirl also facilitates deep penetration, making a few extra inches less important.
• Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) – Otherwise known as tilted missionary, you begin in missionary but slide your body a tad higher until your pubic bone is against the clitoris. It’s less of a deep thrust and more of a slow grind, which can actually ramp up pleasure and maximise penetration.
• Back-and-Front – Using either your hand or any number of special sex toys, such as a small vibrator, you’ll penetrate from behind (anal sex is also an option) while using your front hand to stimulate the clitoris. Expect the thrusts to be shallower and slower, but this makes it easier to coordinate what’s going on on both sides.
• Lotus Positions – Also known as seated positions, this is essentially where the receiving partner straddles you while you sit on a chair or the edge of the bed. This gives you more access to the clitoris with both hands and a toy, allowing you to make clitoral pleasure the main event.

Positions for more control and intimacy

We all want to feel more confident in the bedroom while deepening our connection with our partners. It’s the key to good sex time and time again. After all, why do you think a one-night stand is never as good as the sex you enjoy when you’re with a committed and compatible partner?

These small penis sex positions are all about increasing the amount of touch and eye contact while offering easy communication to help you stay relaxed and present.

• Missionary With Tweaks – Ordinarily, missionary allows for talking, kissing, and eye contact. Yet it so often goes forgotten in favour of thrusting. This time, you’re going to use them. The key is to slow the pace and alter the position, such as getting your partner to wrap their legs around your waist to change the sensation, whilst keeping the intimacy.
• Face-to-Face Side Lying – Both of you will lie on your sides facing each other. This creates full-body contact while allowing you to control depth and rhythm at the same time. And it gives everybody the chance to slow things down and take a break without breaking the spell.
• Spooning – Not all sex must include penetration. Spooning is low-pressure and gentle. One partner gets behind the other, where you can penetrate, hold, stroke, stimulate, or just lie there. It’s especially helpful if you’re someone already suffering from performance anxiety. As a bonus, oral sex can be equally gratifying.
• Seated Embrace – Sit upright with your partner straddling your lap. Let them wrap their legs around you. It’s the type of controlled yet intensely intimate move that takes the emphasis away from thrusts and more on breathing and hugging together. The penetrating partner enters, and both sides can then define how they want things to go.

Get more confidence in the bedroom 

Performance anxiety is perfectly normal and can be triggered by any number of things, including having below-average penis size. Up to 25% of men globally may suffer from some degree of it [10].

Sometimes, changing positions doesn’t change your situation. Confidence plays a massive role in everything from giving your partner pleasure to premature ejaculation.

If you’re looking for medically-backed support for dealing with any number of sexual problems, take a look at Pilot’s ED Treatment now, or even speak to a sex therapist.

Seeking professional medical advice for what you know is an issue is the first step to getting back to enjoying your sex life, rather than dreading it, which is what really matters in the bedroom.

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